Designed to be felt but not heard

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The toy is 3.5 inches long , however, so you can easily find your own and travel with it. The amount of vibrators on the market is overwhelming — almost as overwhelming as the number of lists telling you which one is the best. But for people who want a very pretty toy that also meets my criteria, I can’t tell you enough that the Womanizer gets the job done. Read on to see our picks for the best palm vibrators to shop now from retailers like LELO, Dame, Lovehoney, and more.

Insertable up to 17cm, the Silencer features a rounded tip and a silky-smooth shaft that’s ribbed for extra pleasure. It’s battery operated and completely waterproof, so go ahead and get your rub-a-dub-dub on in the tub. Designed to be felt but not heard, the Silencer is a whisper-quiet classic vibrator that comes from the “sexual happiness people” over at Lovehoney. If just three vibration options sounds too limiting, might we suggest the Minna Ola?

Luckily, I have a few tips and tricks to help you narrow things down. “Lelo’s Nea 3 is the perfect vibrator for someone who wants discreet, powerful vibrator, external stimulation,” says sex therapist Leigh Noren. Indeed, it looks more like an objet d’art than a sex toy, and is small enough to fit in pretty much any bag or pocket, so it’s a great pick for those who need discretion. Its gently curved shape allows it to slot neatly between bodies during sex. While it’s designed mainly for clitoral use, you can also try this one on the nipples, labia, balls, taint, or frenulum.

While we love dishing on our favorite sex toys, we know that not everyone can relate. So, regardless of if you want to keep the noise-level down for roommates or you don’t want your collection of vibes to quite look like vibrators, we’re here to serve with the best discreet sex toys to suit your needs. The Tenga Iroha provides four speeds and two patterns, and it is hands-down the quietest vibrator in our guide.

Don’t be deceived by its size – this petite vibrator stimulates the clitoris with a powerful tapping sensation, with the help of three speeds and six vibration patterns. Our in-house team of reviewers has collectively tried over 500 sex toys—the ones we featured here are amongst their tried-and-true faves. We also asked sex educators and therapists to share the products that have been the biggest game-changers in their clients’ and patients’ solo and partnered sex lives. The final list only includes options that earned two enthusiastic thumbs up. Our favorite palm vibe, the Le Wand Point, has a sleek stainless steel handle and an uber-soft ridged silicone tip. The heavier steel end allows the toy to provide more pressure than an all-silicone option, Finn previously told SELF.

So while you may not be tossing it in your purse or boldly striding past airport security with it in your cosmetics bag, you can rest assured that it’ll keep your profile low while in use. The Lelo Dot also features a ring and low, quiet vibrations, but has a shape unlike the shapes of other vibrators. The tapered body of the vibrator allows users to explore and then maximize the specific pleasure points of their erogenous zones both externally (don’t forget about sexy, sensitive areas such as the nipples!) and internally. It stays true to its promise of a vacillating between a “teasing murmur” and a “satisfying pulse,” never straying into a loud, distracting buzz. This “beautiful looking product” provides double the pleasure with a suction head to mimic oral sex and an insertable love egg to target the G-spot. Testers loved the feel of the soft silicone against their skin and said it was a cinch to use thanks to easy-to-follow instructions.

Porous materials, like PVC and elastomer, hold onto bacteria and can never be fully cleaned. Instead, look for vibes made from nonporous materials like ABS plastic and medical-grade silicone—these won’t irritate or damage genital and anal tissues, Dr. Suwinyattichaiporn says. If your sex toy looks rusty, discoloured or just generally worse for wear, it’s probably time to replace it. Similarly, if the battery looks damaged or there are frayed electrical wires, then you should look for a new vibrator. It has an impressive seven vibration modes and eight levels of intensity, putting you in total control of your experience. It also still comes in an attractive, compact (3.5”) case and makes minimal noise, so it’s a top choice if discretion is the name of the game.